Tell the full story

Recently, I just passed by the most brilliant quote ever

as I was catching up on my non-sense TikTok feeds.

I landed on an inspiring video of Dr. John Delony on stage at one of his seminars.

He shared with the audience, that his therapist passed a mantra onto him,

and it shifted how he viewed and handled his challenges.

Now this is something that I incorporate in all of my life coach

sessions and anger management classes that I teach.

"Tell the full story"

What the saying represents is sharing both sides of your situation, self talk or problems.

Giving permission to share the negatives, but reminding yourself that there's another

side to the story - the positives.

Too many times, when we face difficulties and challenges, we often become so pervasive,

where we generalize our situation and expand it from having a bad day to feeling like

you had a bad life. Have you ever done that? ...Yup, me too!

If we don't find a way to interrupt those thoughts and redirect them, then we will

frequently allow our thoughts to have power over the situation and our capability.

That's when our thoughts will spiral out of control and escalate further, and hinder

our emotions to cope, our mentality to gain focus on the situation or to take productive action.

Using the mantra, "Tell the full story" can help pull yourself out of that never winning loop.

So, how do we implement this mantra into your life?

By allowing yourself to be authentic. Share the hard parts. Share your struggles and challenges.

All of that is okay! It is perfectly fine to vent or to accept, BUT... do not stay there.

Do not leave out the other side of the story of what is going right

It was said by Tony Robbins that, "what is wrong or what is missing is always available".

So, it's time to ask yourself, "What is going right?"

If you look for something to be wrong or missing, you'll always find it.

Because problems are a never-ending thing, regardless of what your status is.

For example, I could complain that I have been paying thousands of dollars

on a house that I can't move into yet. Between paying the mortgage on a house

that's not livable, gutting and renovating rooms, replacing appliances that the previous

owners lied about being "new" and replacing a roof that wasn't in the budget.

BUT if I stay there in those negative thoughts, is that serving me? NO!

And that's not telling the full story, is it? Also, no!

The other side of this story is that I accomplished my goal of purchasing a house.

I exceeded my dream of owning a property with lots of land.

I assumed that I would own a house with 2 acres or less, but I own 6 acres.

This house has lots of issues, but I have purchased a lot of gorgeous upgrades and

when everything is done, this will be one of my greatest accomplishments next to parenthood.

See how much greater my story is? Can you feel the difference when reading the two?

I bet when you read the first part with just the negatives, I bet it made you feel heavy or you

held tension, but when you read the second part with all of the gratitude and hope, you felt lighter and more uplifted. Our body is a great signal to how our emotions affect us.

Practicing gratitude or envisioning a future of achieving your desires is

what will grant you that positive side of your story.

So, what parts of your story are you stuck on? Are you sharing the full story?

Remember there are always two sides to a story - share them both

Jenn Everson

Transformation Coach & NLP Practitioner

Owner, Forever Soon Fulfilled

www.foreversoonfulfilled.com

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