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All I ask is for 15minutes

Writer's picture: Jenn EversonJenn Everson

Updated: Dec 30, 2024



What’s the first thing you do in the morning?


The majority of people will answer that they pick up their phone or turn on the news.

I ask this question to each of my clients, Why?


Because how we start our day will determine the energy for how the rest of the day goes. What you fuel your mind with will create your reality. By attending to these things first, you are creating a few negative responses for your day and a habit for your life


So, let’s learn about what picking up our phone or turning on the news tells us:


1)        Your mind is immediately thinking about others or attending to others first over yourself - attending to roles, auto-pilot and feeding burn out

2)        Most of the time, our phones or the news is greeting you with negativity or negative posts

3)        We’re stimulating our minds with non-sense, events out of our control and creating a momentum of needing instant gratification from scrolling, which can create a momentum of distracting ourselves/lack of focus throughout the day

4)        Everyone else comes first, before you - creating a loss sense of identity & self-worth, along with false senses of guilt


So, how do we shift this?

I redirect my clients to start a new routine in the morning. Most say that they don’t have time.

Funny, we don’t have “time”, but we make sure we have time to make coffee, take the dogs out, wake the kids, feed them, get them ready for school, and make lunches, but we don’t have time to spare for ourselves.


What do you think this does if we don’t put ourselves first on the list?

Not only does this say, you are the least important person here, but it puts you on the back burner to do what? Burn yourself out!


In order for you to be there for others, you must fill your cup and care for yourself first. You ARE priority! You may have obligations, responsibilities and tasks/people to attend to, but without you whole and without your sense of self, you will not be able to attend to those fully. You will always be running yourself to the ground in the process. It’s kind of ironic if you think about it, that the person that does the most, does the least for themselves.


Most people don’t make the time to have a self-care morning routine, because they don’t want to, don’t find it to be priority enough or feel guilty to do so. Make the time! Set your alarm 15 minutes earlier, and go to bed 15 minutes sooner, if you think it’ll make that much of a difference in sleep. Wake yourself up, DO NOT pick up your phone or turn on the news. The least role you may not have a choice in attending to is your pets. But have your intention be solely focused on you and your needs. Take this time to be with yourself before everyone in the house wakes up. Embrace the silence. Embrace your feet touching the ground in slow motion, not rushing. Embrace the feeling of just being with YOU, and releasing those roles first and reconnecting with your identity first. You are YOU! You are important! You are priority! You are worthy! Your loved ones want this for you too!


Then, take that set time as an opportunity to connect with all aspects of yourself - mind, body and soul. Awaken all areas of your being to feel more alive, awakened, important and worthy.


My favorite top 4 that I suggest is:

1)        Move your body, even if it’s an intentional stretch

2)        Practice gratitude

3)        Affirmations

4)        Envision/feel into your goal and desires.


Starting your day of giving love to yourself will generate and pulsate that energy through others as well. However, don’t get discouraged if your toddler wakes up cranky, don’t let your fear set in, “But I was being positive and of love! Feel the love!!”, we can only control ourselves and try our best on influencing how others feel or react. If we give to ourselves first and aren’t on the road of burn out, you’ll start to notice that your patience will become greater to handle such challenges. When our patience is thin, we’re always yelling or always frustrated with our children or partners, that’s a big giveaway that you’re burnt out. It may not always be your loved one’s fault, but that our senses are so heightened and are having a hard time dealing with more challenges coming toward us. That’s why often our jobs no longer feel satisfying anymore or that we dream of vacations all of the time, instead of creating a life that you don’t need to escape from.


Burn out will kill your dreams, desires, focus, emotional regulation and the experience of the current blessings you have. That’s why gratitude is so important, affirmations will build you back up and physiology will awaken and embody those positive shifts.


There are so many wonderful practices of fueling yourself and connecting with yourself that will truly add energy, positivity, ambition and passion to your day. This also limits the chances of burn out. Learn more during a 1:1 session with me. I offer individual sessions or programs for intense transformation.


Jenn Everson

Transformation Coach & NLP Practitioner

Owner, Forever Soon Fulfilled

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