I had gone through 2 houses already with my realtor, and just didn’t feel like they were the ones.
The third house we looked at had a huge lot in the woods.
This was the first house that I looked at to possibly purchase where I met an owner.
It was a man and he talked up the house and property.. little did I know at the time the mound of work that needed to be done that he was covering up..
However, a few days later, I finally decided to pull the trigger and put in for the house.
The next day they accepted my offer! I was absolutely ecstatic!
A couple weeks later, I was set to settle on a Monday.
So, we scheduled the walk through on Sunday, because my realtor was gone on vacation that Monday, and after working with her for four years, she was not going to, at least, miss this moment!
However, my walkthrough was nothing like expected.
When we arrived, there were trucks and people everywhere, they were still moving out.
My realtor met with me, “The owner would like to meet with you and she would like to ask what you would like to keep and what you prefer they get rid of”… “She?”, I asked.
So, we walked up to the house and I met this woman that you can tell had been crying all morning.
Mainly her & I walked around the property. Pushing through her tears, she was showing me the different gardens and plants that she had planted throughout the years; a beautiful butterfly bush, blueberries, blackberries, and more. She would point to various items in the yard and asked if I wanted to keep or get rid of certain things. This is a 6-arce horse farm, so there was a lot here.
Once her and I got to the shed out back, then she began to open up.
“I’m so sorry for crying. This is just so hard”
I empathized with her.
She continued, “I bought this house when I was a single mom. I had been in a relationship where he told me that I wouldn’t be able to do anything without him. So, I bought this for me and my daughter, and I did it. I proved it to myself that I could. I’m sad that I have to let it go”
I won’t get int the details of the departure, but I resonated with her “Why” on buying this property.
It’s a whole lot of property for one person, but if she did for so many years then I can. I almost felt like I was being handed over the torch and to finish what she started.
It’s wild how we can so easily attract those who are similar to us. Energy is a powerful thing, because I had no clue that the true owner of the house was a woman until I signed the paperwork. Let alone a single mom who had something to prove.
I, too, had a similar story and experience. I was in a relationship that I thought would be my forever, but little did I recognize at the time of how unhealthy and co-dependent it truly became. He broke up with me, and I’m grateful that he did, because that was God’s way of making me move. I would still be with him, if he hadn’t made the move for me; miserable, co-dependent and trapped.
That was four years ago. Four years ago, he not only broke up with me, but racked up my credit cards to cover expenses, when he quit his job without telling me. He kept making excuses stating that his employer was just messing up payroll. He also became this man of fury and rage. He made it completely impossible for my son and I to even process and stay until we found a place to move to. Luckily, I was able to stay at the B&B I was working for at the time. I was only given a month or so permission to stay there, but at least it was something.
During this time, I was starting to be able to gain myself again. I didn’t need to worry about someone coming home and me setting my energy and feelings to the side to appease their emotions anymore. But I also needed to transition back into survival mode.
I was a single mama again, and having to desperately find a home for my son and I. We were basically homeless and broke at this point. So, I got my mind focused and set to what we needed to do to move forward.
My number 1 goal and focus was to purchase a house. Little did I know that it would take me four years to succeed such a dream, but I’m grateful that I achieved it all. I think it’s truly telling of how strong minded I have been to chase that dream consistently for four years. I worked on paying debts, raising my credit score, opening a business, jumping to higher paying day jobs, learning how to invest into stocks, and building up my opportunities to purchase a home while healing, navigating a pandemic and inflation. Nothing was going to stop me from succeeding this for me and my son. It took lots of trials, challenges and some harsh lessons to get to this point, but I am here now.
There is sooo much work that needs to be done for this house and property. The man that lived in the home while she was away, definitely didn’t take care of anything here. The property needs to be cleaned up massively, the barn needs to fixed, the pasture needs more proper fencing, and the house needed lots of work, including electrical, plumbing, septic, broken windows and gutting out rooms from prior water damage. However, I have been blessed with many great deals to help with the remodeling. Facebook marketplace and Habitat of Humanity stores have been my best friends!
Either way, I am taking this property and home, and creating a legacy for my son and myself.
I am starting out as a single mom homeowner, but just like this house will expand and grow, so will I. I honestly feel like this house is a great reflection of my life. It just needs someone to care, to attend to it, to help build it up to its greatest potential, and to help revive it after so much neglect. That’s why I am calling it, “Promising Acres”. It has a lot of promise, and I promise to help it reach its highest value again… along with myself.
Jenn Everson
Forever Soon Fulfilled
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